Grief is difficult, period. But this time of year, it can be especially difficult. Just remember. . .
Don’t be Disturbed by Thoughtless Remarks
Sometimes other people try to help you get out of your grief by offering advice or "constructive criticism." They may admonish you to "get over it" or to "get back into life." These comments can hurt.
Remember, you have insight into your unique grieving process that these people do not have. You know that the length of the grieving process is different for each person. You know you have to let the grieving process take place, because if you try to rush it, you will only prolong the healing.
So many people will say: 'Well, it's been eight months. Don't you think you should be over it by now?'
Don’t let them bother you. They speak out of ignorance, and the desire for your happiness – not to be mean or thoughtless. Smile, thank them for their concern, and keep walking forward on your journey.
Be at peace with where you are emotionally, and listen to the love behind the words of others. They so want you to be happy.
As a very wise funeral director once told me. . . Grief is something you must go through - you can't go over it, under it or around it!
Quotation for the Day
"All sorrows can be borne if you put them into a story or tell a story about them." ~Isak Dinesen